We all know what a relationship is and we have our own expectations on how they should be. But do you know the signs when the relationship is unhealthy?
I just want to start off by saying that I am not an expert and I’m not specialized in this field. However I’ve had my share of unhealthy relationships. I’m learning how to handle these situations better. As we all know, Life throws us curves balls all the time. It’s how we handle them that makes us who we are.
Unhealthy Relationship Signs and How to Take Charge
If you are in a relationship where the other person feeds on drama.
Do not play into the situation. I personally ignore unnecessary drama. When the other person realizes that you are not reacting in a way they hope for, they will direct their attention to something else. If your consistent, they will eventually understand that you wont put up with it.
If you are in a relationship where the other person blames everything on everyone.
Kindly explain the situation from your point of view. Some people get so stuck in their ways that they don’t realize when they are in the wrong. Sometimes it just takes so much as a friendly reminder while other times it may take a long, brutal talk and some good proof.
If you are in a relationship where the other person is looking for constant attention, whether it’s good or bad, as long as the attention is on them.
This often happens a lot when people are wanting to build their self confidence and to cover up their own flaws. They are looking for approval from others where they may not find it. A good way to handle this situation is to point out when the attention is bad. Tell your friend or family member that the excessive attention is unnecessary and you love them for who they are.
If you are in a relationship where the other is never willing to better themselves. Yet they complain constantly about their situation but never take steps to fix the reoccurring problem.
Offer advice and help them find a solution to their problem if you can. If they refuse the help then remind them next time the situation is brought up.
If you are in a relationship where the relationship is one sided. They are nowhere around when you need them. Yet you must be available at all times.
Kindly explain that you have a family that you must attend to. Be there when you can, if the behavior continues then offer support from other resources.
If you are in a relationship where you are belittled or called names.
I personally do not tolerate this at all. I remove myself from the situation until the person gets a clear head to have a reasonable conversation.
If you are in a relationship where there is Physical or Emotional Abuse.
This is never ok, get help or leave the relationship.
If you are in a relationship where there is no appreciation, they only continue to take and never return.
Kindly explain you have nothing more to give. In most cases you will see a person true colors if they are only in a relationship to benefit themselves. My advice would be to leave the relationship if this problem isn’t fixed.
If these approaches dont work then you can remove yourself from the relationship. Unhealthy relationships are just that, unhealthy. If you’re constantly worried, stressed, or angry then you need to take action. Whether you seek counseling, or leave. Remember you are not to blame. Some people may just be stuck in a rut but you can always offer that you will be there when they find themselves out. A good friend helps others. However, you cant let the other person bring you down with them, if they are not willing to change or seek help. If you are in a unhealthy relationship, my main advice is to stay strong, be firm, and most of all use your best judgment.
As a mother, I am trying my best to keep positive influences around my children. We all have our ups and downs but it’s the constant cycle with no end that I will not tolerate. I will try my best to be a good friend and family member and I will help in any way that I can, as long as they are willing to help themselves also. However, I will not let others bring me down with unnecessary behavior.