Returning to the Workforce after being a stay at home mother for two years was extremely overwhelming. I actually pondered over the idea for almost a year. Once I thought I was ready to jump back into the workforce, I would quickly talk myself away from the idea again. I’ve always been the woman whom loved to work. So why was I scared to return to work after becoming a stay at home mother?
For the last two years, my children have been under my care while my husband is at work. The first thing they see when they wake up in the mornings is mommy by their side. Always smiling and greeting them with “Good Morning Boys” and my kisses. When they cry, they are well assured that mommy will be there to wipe their tears. They know mommy kisses heal their boo boos and takes away the pain. If they’re sick, they know mommy will be right beside them to cuddle and comfort them. Best of all, I get to tuck them in at night, kiss their little foreheads, and teach them how to talk to God through prayer.
The thought of being away from the home, was a terrifying one. What if they cried for mom and I wasn’t near? Who would be the one to wipe their tears and magically heal their boo boos with kisses? These are thoughts that ran through my mind every day, over and over.
As much as I dearly love spending all day with my children, I needed to return to work. The main reasoning was due to the fact that being home all day was taking its toll on me. I could feel myself becoming easily stressed and irritable. An extra income is always a plus as well and I also just love work. As crazy as it sounds, but I’ve always been a people person. I’m not one to stay home.
So, keeping all of this in mind, I knew my husband was the only person to keep my mind at ease. He knows me better than anyone. He’s also watched me and knows how I interact with the boys. I know that he won’t do things exactly as I do, but he knows our routines. He can wipe away their tears when they cry. Daddy kisses also magically heals boo boos, believe it or not. When they’re sick, he will be right by their side to cuddle and comfort them. He will also tuck them in at night, or have a sleepover in the living room floor.
“Daddy kisses also magically heals boo boos, believe it or not.”
In order for Dad to watch the boys while I’m at work, I had to work around his schedule. I started working part time on nightshift. Yes, it’s extremely exhausting. However, I feel comfortable knowing that my children are safe and secure with daddy. My children also get to stay in the comfort of their own home.
Overall, going back to work was a great decision. My kids get to spend more one on one time with dad. I get to raise my children while also getting the social interaction from work. I’m able to help out with income without having the expense of childcare. My attitude has also changed for the better. I’m not so stressed out because I’m getting a moment to relax my mom brain.
I know almost all moms must feel the same way I did. The fear of returning to the workforce is just terrifying and overwhelming at first. However, if returning to work is something that you really want to do, then you must way the pros and cons. There are many other options out there as well. You just have to figure out what works best for you and your family. I just want you to know you’re not alone. The fear is real, and can easily stop you from pursuing your passion. However, returning to work may be the self-care that you would’ve never expected.